Not every long-term marriage ends in ‘happily ever after’

Not every long-term marriage ends in ‘happily ever after’

These days “happily ever after” is not how every Cincinnati couple’s marriage ends even if the couple was married for years or even decades. Data from the U.S. Census Bureau shows that among both sexes between the ages of 55 to 64, the divorce rate is high — approximately 43%. Those in this age group who are seeking a divorce, referred to as a “gray divorce,” face questions and situations that their younger counterparts do not.

What issues do those going through a gray divorce face?

In a gray divorce it is likely that your children are adults and may have children of their own. Therefore, child custody and child support are non-issues in a gray divorce. However, other issues — specifically property division and spousal support — will play a bigger role in a gray divorce, especially if the couple is nearing to retirement or are already retired.

Mediating a gray divorce

Mediation can help make the gray divorce process more efficient and less costly. Through mediation, the parties work with a mediator to negotiate an agreeable settlement to their divorce. The mediator is a neutral third party. The mediator is not a decision maker. Rather, the mediator facilitates discussions between the spouses in a way that is fair and productive. Oftentimes couples find the outcome of mediation to be satisfactory as they had a say in the terms of the final settlement.

Divorce is slowly losing its negative stigma

Some people in Cincinnati may object to divorce on moral or religious grounds, but divorce is becoming more normalized among the general public. Older adults recognize that they should not spend the entirety of their marriage unhappy. Even those in their 50s and 60s may have 20 to 30 years together or more. Rather than spend those years in an unhappy relationship, they are choosing to make a clean break and move forward.

Learn more about divorce in Ohio

No matter what your age, divorce proceedings can be complicated and both parties want to ensure the process is fair to them. This post is for educational purposes only and does not contain legal advice. Our firm’s webpage on divorce may be a useful resource for those who want to learn more about this important topic.